Status and Society

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In society we all like to know our place. Where we fit in relative to everyone else. For females, this 'may' mean knowing which of your group is the most attractive and for males this 'may' mean knowing who earns the most.

At work, we like to know who we can ask to do things and who can ask us to do things and who we have to work with. We like those in 'authority' to wear uniforms and have symbols of 'authority' such as badges or keys to access non-public buildings that we, the public, pay for. Job titles are important to us, Prime Minister or President or CEO or CFO or Manager or Consultant or Enhanced Optical Clarity Engineer (Window Cleaner.)

What utter nonsense. Society is based on all the above nonsense being important. Imagine six women in a bar and in walks a stylishly dressed man of above average height. Society will have conditioned him to know which of the six women is the most attractive. Thus he can more easily mingle with the six women without upsetting their hierarchy. What utter nonsense yet that is the world we think we live in.

Six male friends may all know who earns the most money but if he has no clue on how to spend, save and invest it, then does is really matter? These friends may all have different job titles but as friends, this does not matter either.

So, society is based on certain truths that we all know are not true. So, what is true, I believe that fear keeps us believing that which we know to be untrue. I use the word fear to encompass a wide range of hormonal responses, from slightly uncomfortable to intense fright.

Work is a difficult area to be completely free of fear. As is arguing with a policeman. This is where society wins out against all logic, which is exactly how society employs fear against our individual and collective best interests.

At work, we each have an area of responsibility and accountability. So be responsible for that area and be accountable for that area. If your boss asks that you do something outside of this area, simply point out that you will be unable to maintain your current level of performance, in your current area, should you perform this new task. If the boss still requires you to do the new task, then so be it. Do it. Don't be afraid to ask for additional resources and equipment, to be able to do the new task reasonably well. If you are denied these things then still do the new task. In doing things in this way, your are being useful and helpful to your boss and he or she is aware of how you believe this will impact on your core areas.

At work many of us create our own stress based upon a high demand workload or tight deadline. This is because many of us strive to do our best. To continue to hit and meet our goals and targets despite an increase in workload or a shift of resources away from us or perhaps because we are simply given more to do. We like to do our 'best'. Well, I suggest you simply do that which is reasonable for you to do with your current resources and available time. If your are prioritising, then you don't have to make the best decisions or even choose to do things optimally. You are paid to make reasonable choices and to make reasonable assumptions. As in driving a motor car, you only need drive it in a reasonable manner. You needn't drive anywhere as fast as possible, or using as little fuel as possible. A low status boss may insist that you achieve conflicting goals, So the key word is REASONABLE. Now, let us imagine a low status boss is unhappy with your performance and tells you to do better. Perhaps he says that you are not working at your best. No need to argue. Have a think about what extra resources you need to complete the tasks as required by your boss. I recently did this. Eventually, I determined what was needed and requested it. I chose an optimal solution. One using as few company resources as possible to the greatest possible effect. I did plan 'optimally' but in actually executing the plan, doing the work, I simply work in a reasonable manner. Zero stress for my boss. Zero stress for me. Boss is a strong word. He is simply another member of our 'family' with a different area of responsibility and accountability to me.

If your boss asks you to do something that is a waste of time and effort. As happened to me this week, don't react with frustration or anger. That is the reaction of a low status being and not a high status one. Give it some thought. I replied with a well thought out email emphasizing the size of the task and the unlikely chance of completing it before the deadline. I offered an alternative solution, which would not waste any time. My boss accepted my proposal. Both of us behaving as high status males. Both of us respecting each others areas of responsibility and accountability. Both of us treating and reacting to each other as if we were both actual human beings.

You can do the same thing with police and other 'jobsworths'. A 'jobsworth' is someone who completely believes in 'society' rather than 'humanity'. A person who may or may not lack humanity but their belief in society is far stronger. Or rather, their fear of punishment crushes their basic humanity. Let us briefly go up a level of critical thought. Recently, I had a human resource person tell me that I could not have a tape dispenser, with a retail cost of less than five bucks / three pounds. Her 'reasoning' was that no-one else had one. Interesting. A few weeks later I sent her an email requesting a piece of equipment costing 100 times that of the tape dispenser. I reasonably stated what I could do and what I could not do without the equipment and gave her total accountability and responsibility for supplying the equipment or not supplying it. In denying me the five dollar tape dispenser she exercised power without any responsibility or accountability. Something that feminists truly enjoy. I simply accepted her power and then gave her accountability and responsibility for the purchase or otherwise of a 500 dollar / 300 pounds sterling item. She made her choice. She chose not to be accountable for me being unable to perform certain tasks and supplied the equipment. I choose not to see this as a victory but one of reasonably matching power with accountability and responsibility. I get to maintain my high status position and the women in HR gets to experience it. For those with an eye for detail. I did get my tape dispenser but I did have to ask twice for it. A few weeks later I requested a Parker Pen refill, which is far beyond my pay grade. My request was granted within 60 seconds. It looks like the HR lady with the power to say 'no' has learned that saying 'no' to me is not going to lead to a shot of endorphins. She has removed the Parker Pen re-fill from my buy list. I hope she enjoyed the endorphin hit.

I hope that I am gently opening your eyes / mind to the reality of society. To the silent demands of society. I ought really write a book about the demands of society. Before that, I need to write a book about increasing your awareness of others. Yet still, before even that I must write a book about increasing your own self awareness. I must then find a way of getting these books to you. As you have no way of judging the value of these books before reading them, I must find a way to get them to you at no cost. So I have. Christmas 2018 - free on Amazon. I perhaps need to do more. However, as a high status male I have deemed my efforts, thus far, as reasonable. The rest is up to you, as it always has and always will be. Due to Amazons rules, one of the books cannot be free so I have made the collection free. Please download it.

Society has rules and hierarchies that utterly depend upon you believing them despite the fact that we 'know' the rules are not true yet many people fear the consequences of ignoring the rules anyway. I 'once' broke a law and was caught, Judged and sentenced. I did what I could to minimise the impact of the consequences of my actions but never feared the outcome. One law enforcement Officer mentioned something about my 'punishment'. He even used the word 'punished'. I squared up to him and quietly but firmly said, 'No-one punishes me.' I was behaving and had continually behaved as a high status male throughout the 'experience'. This did not sit well with many of those who believed that their position in society gave them any 'authority' over me. Over a period of time, all those in 'authority' who believed that they had any 'authority' over me learned that they didn't. I hope that the lesson they learnt was that I had accepted 'societies' consequences for my actions. They eventually realised that I had no fear of their 'punishments'. However, they were not immune from imagining into existence fears of what I could do to them. I am not making a point about how 'hard' or how 'feared' I may or may not be. I am using that which society has conditioned into us all. Fear of the consequences for breaking rules. Society has rules and consequences. I merely allowed those in 'Authority' to realise an obvious truth, that I had my own set of rules and consequences too. As do we all. The key element of using this undocumented societal feature is to treat everyone as if they were high status, whilst maintaining high status yourself. This dissolves their illusory societal status and then you communicate as equals, one human to another. Or those in authority succumb to fear, so take extra special care when that happens.

The essential point that I am trying to make is that even a penniless, jobless man can consider himself to be high status and can carry himself as high status and be perceived as high status. The members of the public will make up their own back story for him. One which continues their own belief in society rather than face the fact that 'society' is based upon 'fear' and is utterly opposed to allowing humanity to thrive.

Humanity is reality and society just an illusion.

This is easily proved. Should you walk into a room full of adults and one eight year old girl, you may assume that the girl is the weakest. You are likely correct. She likely has no real wealth, no job and could easily be over powered or physically coerced. Society does have laws and you could expect to be arrested if you attempted to remove her from the room against her will. However, in reality, a family member will be present and they will stop you. Perhaps by doing something 'illegal' themselves. Perhaps you are a policeman and have some vague reason for taking the girl. Now 'society' is not stupid. A parent or guardian will be asked to accompany the girl. This is solely due to the fact that fear of breaking a rule by stopping the policeman from taking your daughter will be completely overwhelmed by your humanity – by your sense of responsibility and accountability for the welfare of your loved ones.

Thus our humanity, under developed as it is, will only allow society to go so far. This is why mass surveillance of the public by our governments is so corrosive to our collective humanity. Government wants to know how far it can push us before our humanity kicks in and we push back. Society always wants more power. Governments always want more power, just to get more done. Which brings me to the current crop of feminists and human resource people. Feminists and human resource people really do believe that society is the only thing between us and complete anarchy. Human resource people believe completely in companies hierarchical structures. That no other way of managing people and resources towards a collective goal is possible. These human resource people get to decide who gets to work at these companies, who gets the resources and so the creative and intellectual can be labelled as trouble makers and correctly identified as not fitting in with the companies hierarchy. The feminists can give government tacit approval for destroying mens careers who say the wrong thing, jokingly, sarcastically, or not. Feminists can allow government the power to take wealth from men to give to women. I know of one woman who asked her ex-husband to look after their children while she went on a two month tour of the world with her new boyfriend. On getting back to England she was enraged that her ex had not been paying her child support money. A Judge on hearing the full story forced the man to pay up saying that he should have asked the Judge first before not paying. As I say, society is not real and is based upon rules that are not based on either justice, fairness, logic or humanity.

Society is not standing between us and anarchy.

Humanity always stands against anarchy

Society simply stands between us and our own humanity.

So, where does the blame lie for our current lack of humanity? There is no blame. We should all choose to be high status. Then society dissolves. Humanity ascends. We all enjoy living in a civilisation which could slowly morph into Heaven on Earth.

Society does not spring from anarchy

Society gets stronger from suppressing the humanity in all of us.

Society continues at humanities expense, at our expense, at your expense, at the expense of your loved ones and children. Regardless of whether you are aware of this or not.

Please weigh my words with care and if any resonate with you, give them further thought and consider choosing to make a difference.

Becoming high status might well take effort and require practice, start as follows:-

Act and behave as......................................

High status in your own home and with friends

High status when walking around your neighbourhood

High Status when driving your car or riding your bike

High status at work

High status when dealing with 'officials'

High status when talking to others

High status at job interview

High status when dating

High status when in court

High status when in prison

High status when in hospital

Encourage high status behaviour in others and exercise reasonable control of your new found power. Try calming peoples fears rather than encouraging them.

Have fun and take care (of everyone, especially yourself.)

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My high status is accepted at work, when talking with others and 'officials'. My mother refuses to accept it. Openly asking who I think I am. There are times when I sabotage my own high status but those are becoming far less frequent. I had a Doctor who refused to accept my high status, he broke some rules in an attempt to prove that I was insane. He failed and lost his position.

Being high status is a state of mind and not a state of wealth.

Being high status is not dependent upon a job title.

You choose to be high status and others either accept it or pointlessly waste their own limited energy trying to convince you that you are not high status.

You choose to be high status and you automatically encourage the humanity in others. You are soon saturated in humanity and so society simply dissolves, at least for you.

You choose to be high status and those with little humanity, who are fully dependent upon what society tells them they are, will assume you are something you aren't and accept your high status but will continually test you. As will every member of society anyway.

For those of you who feel, think or believe that there may be an inkling of truth in any of this (There isn't, I make everything up), when you choose to act and be high status you naturally increase the status of those around you, simply by dissipating fear. This is quite natural, as the natural tendency of (mostly) everyone is to be high status anyway and remember that only fear prevents us from being the high status humans that we are.

A final critical thought, I believe that Jesus chose to be high status and that he had to let go of his fear first. Perhaps the fear of disappointing his Father. The fear of his Father punishing us. Or the fear of failing to create Heaven on Earth. Which he did fail to achieve despite his best efforts and a few miracles. Being high status led to his being nailed to a cross but he did not fear it. You may wish to act and be high status but first you must conquer your own fears. How you achieve this is your own business but my books were written to be somewhat helpful and are free this 2018 Christmas period.

Merry Christmas and that.

PS. I hadn't actually realised that I automatically treat others as high status when I am in high status mode. This requires further thought as I now have an increased awareness of self and need to determine how this affects others and if this impacts upon my perception of 'society'.

I could ramble on for hours and hours and so I will craft a book to discipline myself into giving these thoughts structure and time to fully realise the inherent feedback in not only being high status but how those I treat as high status reflect this back to me. (A self reinforcing positive feedback loop of pure humanity.)

I will let you know when and how it is published and when it will be free to acquire, should that be something I can reasonably achieve. My personally imposed deadline will be Christmas 2019. Taking 3 months off work to publish on my 50th birthday appeals to me but so do a great many things and I cannot do them all.

If you cannot wait, read this post again but slower. Read all three of my books with an open mind and practice being and treating others as high status. Then read all three of my books again. (Believe that they were designed to be short for a reason.)

Someone in high status mode is relaxed and will appear to exist in an oasis of calm. Fear is absent.

Someone in low status mode will be stressed, readily irritated, overly sensitive and be overly defensive or aggressive. On the internet, these are called trolls and in real-life called bullies.

The only real difference between high status and low status mode is fear. Low status people, knowingly or not, create fear within others and high status will, knowingly or not, reduce fear in others. Each of us can choose to be high status, at any time, by choosing to conquer whichever fear is forcing us into low status mode.

Christmas can be particularly stressful and by making an attempt to identify each fear as it arises, we can make an effort to conquer it, which banishes the stress. This is not easy but it is the single greatest gift you can either give to yourself or others.

Stress, anger, annoyance are all great indicators that a fear is interfering with your ability to enjoy your current experience. Smile because this is good, you can now attempt to identify the fear, conquer it and then the stress, anger or annoyance associated with that fear ceases to exist. As each fear is identified and conquered, your experience of life becomes more satisfying and enjoyable.

The status that I am discussing is true status and not the synthetic status society gives you for enslaving yourself to its rules. True status is a choice, not a purchase, job title or a number in a bank account.

If you are sad at Christmas, this is not a fear and so there is no need to conquer it. Simply be sad. Explore your feelings and fully experience your sadness. If pleasant memories arise, fully explore and experience those to. Take care.

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I wrote this blog in high status mode and imagined writing it for another high status human being. When reading this post, if you didn't maintain high status mode throughout you will need to re-read it at some point when you are able to maintain high status mode. Otherwise, the communication channel between us is corrupted by fear and you haven't read what I have written.

Take care

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The Mindfulness Trilogy: Books 1, 2 and 3 Kindle Edition by David Watkinson