Status and Society

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In society we all like to know our place. Where we fit in relative to everyone else. For females, this 'may' mean knowing which of your group is the most attractive and for males this 'may' mean knowing who earns the most.

At work, we like to know who we can ask to do things and who can ask us to do things and who we have to work with. We like those in 'authority' to wear uniforms and have symbols of 'authority' such as badges or keys to access non-public buildings that we, the public, pay for. Job titles are important to us, Prime Minister or President or CEO or CFO or Manager or Consultant or Enhanced Optical Clarity Engineer (Window Cleaner.)

What utter nonsense. Society is based on all the above nonsense being important. Imagine six women in a bar and in walks a stylishly dressed man of above average height. Society will have conditioned him to know which of the six women is the most attractive. Thus he can more easily mingle with the six women without upsetting their hierarchy. What utter nonsense yet that is the world we think we live in.

Six male friends may all know who earns the most money but if he has no clue on how to spend, save and invest it, then does is really matter? These friends may all have different job titles but as friends, this does not matter either.

So, society is based on certain truths that we all know are not true. So, what is true, I believe that fear keeps us believing that which we know to be untrue. I use the word fear to encompass a wide range of hormonal responses, from slightly uncomfortable to intense fright.

Work is a difficult area to be completely free of fear. As is arguing with a policeman. This is where society wins out against all logic, which is exactly how society employs fear against our individual and collective best interests.

At work, we each have an area of responsibility and accountability. So be responsible for that area and be accountable for that area. If your boss asks that you do something outside of this area, simply point out that you will be unable to maintain your current level of performance, in your current area, should you perform this new task. If the boss still requires you to do the new task, then so be it. Do it. Don't be afraid to ask for additional resources and equipment, to be able to do the new task reasonably well. If you are denied these things then still do the new task. In doing things in this way, your are being useful and helpful to your boss and he or she is aware of how you believe this will impact on your core areas.

At work many of us create our own stress based upon a high demand workload or tight deadline. This is because many of us strive to do our best. To continue to hit and meet our goals and targets despite an increase in workload or a shift of resources away from us or perhaps because we are simply given more to do. We like to do our 'best'. Well, I suggest you simply do that which is reasonable for you to do with your current resources and available time. If your are prioritising, then you don't have to make the best decisions or even choose to do things optimally. You are paid to make reasonable choices and to make reasonable assumptions. As in driving a motor car, you only need drive it in a reasonable manner. You needn't drive anywhere as fast as possible, or using as little fuel as possible. A low status boss may insist that you achieve conflicting goals, So the key word is REASONABLE. Now, let us imagine a low status boss is unhappy with your performance and tells you to do better. Perhaps he says that you are not working at your best. No need to argue. Have a think about what extra resources you need to complete the tasks as required by your boss. I recently did this. Eventually, I determined what was needed and requested it. I chose an optimal solution. One using as few company resources as possible to the greatest possible effect. I did plan 'optimally' but in actually executing the plan, doing the work, I simply work in a reasonable manner. Zero stress for my boss. Zero stress for me. Boss is a strong word. He is simply another member of our 'family' with a different area of responsibility and accountability to me.

If your boss asks you to do something that is a waste of time and effort. As happened to me this week, don't react with frustration or anger. That is the reaction of a low status being and not a high status one. Give it some thought. I replied with a well thought out email emphasizing the size of the task and the unlikely chance of completing it before the deadline. I offered an alternative solution, which would not waste any time. My boss accepted my proposal. Both of us behaving as high status males. Both of us respecting each others areas of responsibility and accountability. Both of us treating and reacting to each other as if we were both actual human beings.

You can do the same thing with police and other 'jobsworths'. A 'jobsworth' is someone who completely believes in 'society' rather than 'humanity'. A person who may or may not lack humanity but their belief in society is far stronger. Or rather, their fear of punishment crushes their basic humanity. Let us briefly go up a level of critical thought. Recently, I had a human resource person tell me that I could not have a tape dispenser, with a retail cost of less than five bucks / three pounds. Her 'reasoning' was that no-one else had one. Interesting. A few weeks later I sent her an email requesting a piece of equipment costing 100 times that of the tape dispenser. I reasonably stated what I could do and what I could not do without the equipment and gave her total accountability and responsibility for supplying the equipment or not supplying it. In denying me the five dollar tape dispenser she exercised power without any responsibility or accountability. Something that feminists truly enjoy. I simply accepted her power and then gave her accountability and responsibility for the purchase or otherwise of a 500 dollar / 300 pounds sterling item. She made her choice. She chose not to be accountable for me being unable to perform certain tasks and supplied the equipment. I choose not to see this as a victory but one of reasonably matching power with accountability and responsibility. I get to maintain my high status position and the women in HR gets to experience it. For those with an eye for detail. I did get my tape dispenser but I did have to ask twice for it. A few weeks later I requested a Parker Pen refill, which is far beyond my pay grade. My request was granted within 60 seconds. It looks like the HR lady with the power to say 'no' has learned that saying 'no' to me is not going to lead to a shot of endorphins. She has removed the Parker Pen re-fill from my buy list. I hope she enjoyed the endorphin hit.

I hope that I am gently opening your eyes / mind to the reality of society. To the silent demands of society. I ought really write a book about the demands of society. Before that, I need to write a book about increasing your awareness of others. Yet still, before even that I must write a book about increasing your own self awareness. I must then find a way of getting these books to you. As you have no way of judging the value of these books before reading them, I must find a way to get them to you at no cost. So I have. Christmas 2018 - free on Amazon. I perhaps need to do more. However, as a high status male I have deemed my efforts, thus far, as reasonable. The rest is up to you, as it always has and always will be. Due to Amazons rules, one of the books cannot be free so I have made the collection free. Please download it.

Society has rules and hierarchies that utterly depend upon you believing them despite the fact that we 'know' the rules are not true yet many people fear the consequences of ignoring the rules anyway. I 'once' broke a law and was caught, Judged and sentenced. I did what I could to minimise the impact of the consequences of my actions but never feared the outcome. One law enforcement Officer mentioned something about my 'punishment'. He even used the word 'punished'. I squared up to him and quietly but firmly said, 'No-one punishes me.' I was behaving and had continually behaved as a high status male throughout the 'experience'. This did not sit well with many of those who believed that their position in society gave them any 'authority' over me. Over a period of time, all those in 'authority' who believed that they had any 'authority' over me learned that they didn't. I hope that the lesson they learnt was that I had accepted 'societies' consequences for my actions. They eventually realised that I had no fear of their 'punishments'. However, they were not immune from imagining into existence fears of what I could do to them. I am not making a point about how 'hard' or how 'feared' I may or may not be. I am using that which society has conditioned into us all. Fear of the consequences for breaking rules. Society has rules and consequences. I merely allowed those in 'Authority' to realise an obvious truth, that I had my own set of rules and consequences too. As do we all. The key element of using this undocumented societal feature is to treat everyone as if they were high status, whilst maintaining high status yourself. This dissolves their illusory societal status and then you communicate as equals, one human to another. Or those in authority succumb to fear, so take extra special care when that happens.

The essential point that I am trying to make is that even a penniless, jobless man can consider himself to be high status and can carry himself as high status and be perceived as high status. The members of the public will make up their own back story for him. One which continues their own belief in society rather than face the fact that 'society' is based upon 'fear' and is utterly opposed to allowing humanity to thrive.

Humanity is reality and society just an illusion.

This is easily proved. Should you walk into a room full of adults and one eight year old girl, you may assume that the girl is the weakest. You are likely correct. She likely has no real wealth, no job and could easily be over powered or physically coerced. Society does have laws and you could expect to be arrested if you attempted to remove her from the room against her will. However, in reality, a family member will be present and they will stop you. Perhaps by doing something 'illegal' themselves. Perhaps you are a policeman and have some vague reason for taking the girl. Now 'society' is not stupid. A parent or guardian will be asked to accompany the girl. This is solely due to the fact that fear of breaking a rule by stopping the policeman from taking your daughter will be completely overwhelmed by your humanity – by your sense of responsibility and accountability for the welfare of your loved ones.

Thus our humanity, under developed as it is, will only allow society to go so far. This is why mass surveillance of the public by our governments is so corrosive to our collective humanity. Government wants to know how far it can push us before our humanity kicks in and we push back. Society always wants more power. Governments always want more power, just to get more done. Which brings me to the current crop of feminists and human resource people. Feminists and human resource people really do believe that society is the only thing between us and complete anarchy. Human resource people believe completely in companies hierarchical structures. That no other way of managing people and resources towards a collective goal is possible. These human resource people get to decide who gets to work at these companies, who gets the resources and so the creative and intellectual can be labelled as trouble makers and correctly identified as not fitting in with the companies hierarchy. The feminists can give government tacit approval for destroying mens careers who say the wrong thing, jokingly, sarcastically, or not. Feminists can allow government the power to take wealth from men to give to women. I know of one woman who asked her ex-husband to look after their children while she went on a two month tour of the world with her new boyfriend. On getting back to England she was enraged that her ex had not been paying her child support money. A Judge on hearing the full story forced the man to pay up saying that he should have asked the Judge first before not paying. As I say, society is not real and is based upon rules that are not based on either justice, fairness, logic or humanity.

Society is not standing between us and anarchy.

Humanity always stands against anarchy

Society simply stands between us and our own humanity.

So, where does the blame lie for our current lack of humanity? There is no blame. We should all choose to be high status. Then society dissolves. Humanity ascends. We all enjoy living in a civilisation which could slowly morph into Heaven on Earth.

Society does not spring from anarchy

Society gets stronger from suppressing the humanity in all of us.

Society continues at humanities expense, at our expense, at your expense, at the expense of your loved ones and children. Regardless of whether you are aware of this or not.

Please weigh my words with care and if any resonate with you, give them further thought and consider choosing to make a difference.

Becoming high status might well take effort and require practice, start as follows:-

Act and behave as......................................

High status in your own home and with friends

High status when walking around your neighbourhood

High Status when driving your car or riding your bike

High status at work

High status when dealing with 'officials'

High status when talking to others

High status at job interview

High status when dating

High status when in court

High status when in prison

High status when in hospital

Encourage high status behaviour in others and exercise reasonable control of your new found power. Try calming peoples fears rather than encouraging them.

Have fun and take care (of everyone, especially yourself.)

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My high status is accepted at work, when talking with others and 'officials'. My mother refuses to accept it. Openly asking who I think I am. There are times when I sabotage my own high status but those are becoming far less frequent. I had a Doctor who refused to accept my high status, he broke some rules in an attempt to prove that I was insane. He failed and lost his position.

Being high status is a state of mind and not a state of wealth.

Being high status is not dependent upon a job title.

You choose to be high status and others either accept it or pointlessly waste their own limited energy trying to convince you that you are not high status.

You choose to be high status and you automatically encourage the humanity in others. You are soon saturated in humanity and so society simply dissolves, at least for you.

You choose to be high status and those with little humanity, who are fully dependent upon what society tells them they are, will assume you are something you aren't and accept your high status but will continually test you. As will every member of society anyway.

For those of you who feel, think or believe that there may be an inkling of truth in any of this (There isn't, I make everything up), when you choose to act and be high status you naturally increase the status of those around you, simply by dissipating fear. This is quite natural, as the natural tendency of (mostly) everyone is to be high status anyway and remember that only fear prevents us from being the high status humans that we are.

A final critical thought, I believe that Jesus chose to be high status and that he had to let go of his fear first. Perhaps the fear of disappointing his Father. The fear of his Father punishing us. Or the fear of failing to create Heaven on Earth. Which he did fail to achieve despite his best efforts and a few miracles. Being high status led to his being nailed to a cross but he did not fear it. You may wish to act and be high status but first you must conquer your own fears. How you achieve this is your own business but my books were written to be somewhat helpful and are free this 2018 Christmas period.

Merry Christmas and that.

PS. I hadn't actually realised that I automatically treat others as high status when I am in high status mode. This requires further thought as I now have an increased awareness of self and need to determine how this affects others and if this impacts upon my perception of 'society'.

I could ramble on for hours and hours and so I will craft a book to discipline myself into giving these thoughts structure and time to fully realise the inherent feedback in not only being high status but how those I treat as high status reflect this back to me. (A self reinforcing positive feedback loop of pure humanity.)

I will let you know when and how it is published and when it will be free to acquire, should that be something I can reasonably achieve. My personally imposed deadline will be Christmas 2019. Taking 3 months off work to publish on my 50th birthday appeals to me but so do a great many things and I cannot do them all.

If you cannot wait, read this post again but slower. Read all three of my books with an open mind and practice being and treating others as high status. Then read all three of my books again. (Believe that they were designed to be short for a reason.)

Someone in high status mode is relaxed and will appear to exist in an oasis of calm. Fear is absent.

Someone in low status mode will be stressed, readily irritated, overly sensitive and be overly defensive or aggressive. On the internet, these are called trolls and in real-life called bullies.

The only real difference between high status and low status mode is fear. Low status people, knowingly or not, create fear within others and high status will, knowingly or not, reduce fear in others. Each of us can choose to be high status, at any time, by choosing to conquer whichever fear is forcing us into low status mode.

Christmas can be particularly stressful and by making an attempt to identify each fear as it arises, we can make an effort to conquer it, which banishes the stress. This is not easy but it is the single greatest gift you can either give to yourself or others.

Stress, anger, annoyance are all great indicators that a fear is interfering with your ability to enjoy your current experience. Smile because this is good, you can now attempt to identify the fear, conquer it and then the stress, anger or annoyance associated with that fear ceases to exist. As each fear is identified and conquered, your experience of life becomes more satisfying and enjoyable.

The status that I am discussing is true status and not the synthetic status society gives you for enslaving yourself to its rules. True status is a choice, not a purchase, job title or a number in a bank account.

If you are sad at Christmas, this is not a fear and so there is no need to conquer it. Simply be sad. Explore your feelings and fully experience your sadness. If pleasant memories arise, fully explore and experience those to. Take care.

To access my books, you need an Amazon account but it needn't be a Prime Amazon Account. A non-prime account is free and you can download a sample of any of my trilogy for free at anytime. When a book is free, you will have the required skills to download it and read it upon a wide range of devices.

I wrote this blog in high status mode and imagined writing it for another high status human being. When reading this post, if you didn't maintain high status mode throughout you will need to re-read it at some point when you are able to maintain high status mode. Otherwise, the communication channel between us is corrupted by fear and you haven't read what I have written.

Take care

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The Mindfulness Trilogy: Books 1, 2 and 3 Kindle Edition by David Watkinson

High status vs low status

Building upon my previous post, yesterday a low status individual attempted to start a physical fight with me.

In chronological order, he parked his scooter illegally outside of where I work.
He then tried to shoplift a pair of motorcycle gloves from the shop where I buy lunch. He failed.
He then walked back toward his scooter to find me looking at it.
'What you doing', he growled at me.

Well, he has already lost because - he just has. This is not my first day in the 'real world'.

In these circumstances you either knock them out cold or confuse them. I replied with the name of the shop he had just tried to steal from. He growled the question again. I repeated myself and then said, 'are you asking me where I am going?'. This is nonsensical which is the point. He growled, 'no' and repeated himself. I answered, 'I am looking at the scooter, what make is it?'. This calmed him and we had a chat during which he opened and drank a can of cheap lager.

Growling at me, barking questions at me, had zero effect as he is a low status, aggressive thug. I am a high status male and as such he poses zero threat. He was looking for a fight but then realised he was not talking to a lower or equal status male but a far higher one. Whether he knew this consciously or not is beyond my abilities to detect. He completely changed from a thug (seeking a physical confrontation) to someone  who was more than happy to fully answer my queries about his Vespa scooter. He even provided a good deal of information that he thought I ought to know about his 'pride and joy'. He was correct.

High status is not dependent upon having the right watch, wearing the right clothes, living in the right location and earning the right amount of money or having the right parents. High status is a gift that you give yourself. Obviously, it both is and isn't that easy.

Today, both my boss and his boss tested my 'status'. I passed. Many MGTOW complain that women continually test the 'status' of their boyfriends / husbands. I have news for the MGTOW, everyone continually tests everybody elses 'status'. It is what members of the public do. Perhaps this is something you could become more aware of? (read my second book. After reading the first one. Then read the third one. Available free over Christmas, hopefully.)

Allow me to give a further two examples of 'status' tests.

The first is 'chatting up a woman'. If you are nervous, red faced, stuttering, stuck for things to say and generally flustered, you are simply advising your intended mate that you are of low status and should be gently ignored. A high status male is confident and unconcerned with either 'victory' or 'defeat'. Neither word applies to the outcome of a high status male talking to a woman. A high status male is simply passing his time in a generally pleasant way regardless of outcome.

The second status test is a job interview. Again, a low status man will advertise this by being nervous, red faced, stuttering, stuck for things to say and generally flustered. A high status male will be none of these things. A high status male is merely considering a new position.

In all three examples, all the power resides with the high status male. He chooses whether or not to physically assault the thug, whether or not he wishes to spend any additional time with the woman or the prospective employer. Obviously, the thug could assault him anyway, the woman and employer reject him but the high status male is not bothered. A high status male knows that he cannot predict the future and not getting the job or woman might be the best outcome. Perhaps not being assaulted is a better outcome than being assaulted but in any case the high status male does not fear being assaulted. Well, I didn't.

Shall we go a little further down this particular rabbit hole? The 'status trick' discussed above works because people have been conditioned from before birth to accept 'authority'. Actually, people are conditioned to 'fear' the consequences of not accepting 'authority'. In terms of status, a member of public 'knows' exactly what their status is relative to whoever they are talking to. In fact, most conversations are solely about determining who has the higher status.

The thug, being verbally aggressive to me noticed that I reacted as though his aggression was completely absent. That he was not a physical threat. His conditioning then forces him into taking a submissive role, to demonstrate that he accepts my higher status because he fears the consequences of not accepting my 'authority' over him. Basically, he does not want to find out why I don't fear him. Actually, he fears what form my punishment might take if I choose to demonstrate my 'status'. Obviously, as we talk he tries to determine if I am bluffing, simply stupid or an ex-Mafia Enforcer. Regardless, he was very careful not to display any further aggression. He became both pleasant and informative.

I do hope that this is food for (critical) thought rather than you trying to prove to yourself that I am not high status and that I make all this stuff up. I can recall hundreds of completely unbelievable events that I was involved with in my twenties and thirties. So, yes my 'incidents' are unbelievable but so is your so called real world - which is my point. I shouldn't be able to do any of the stuff I do. We all should realise that we are ALL high status. Your high status begins when you say it does. Reading my books will help. Then give it a few years.

The title was high status vs low status. Well, low status always loses and they lose deliberately out of fear of repercussions of winning.

The title also indicates that you have a choice.

The highest social status person that I have ever met was a high ranking cabinet minister. One with a proper job title back when those things meant something. I mentioned that I would like to see him and the people round me made it happen. I should have been clearer. I simply wished to observe him. He thrust out his hand to shake mine. I looked into his eyes. There was a moments pause. Then I turned my back on him and walked away. He wasn't high status. Well, his status was far lower than mine.

Please do not tell me that society is the best that we can hope to have. That without society we have anarchy. That is simply what we are conditioned to believe. That is exactly how the low status 'see' the world. Until most of us are high status then the low status will create anarchy when society fractures.

You may wonder at how many high status human beings I know. Well, that is none of your business.
You may wonder at what I have actually done and what I am capable of doing. Just know this, fear finding out. Or not. (You do have a choice.)

Be seeing you

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Temet Nosce

Many MGTOW vloggers are not comfortable with female hyper-gamy, which is a tendency for women to seek out a high status mate. Practically, this means that women judge 80% of men to be of less than average physical attractiveness.

However, should a woman find out a man is wealthy, then he can magically transforms from below average looks to well above average. Many MGTOW find this quality in women to be 'troubling'.

The basic tendency is for women to seek out a mate to provide a safe and secure environment for raising children. Whereas a male seeks out a female capable of easily bearing children. Rather harshly, women seek out a man with wealth and a man seeks out a young and attractive female. I have no problem with that. It is just something to be aware of. As a man I find that most 20-25 year old women look attractive. I don't believe many of them would make a decent partner to me, a man of twice their age.

For women this means not playing the field until their mid thirties and then trying to have a baby and get married and buy a house in a few short months. They ought not wait for the perfect man either. If only 20% of men are rated as attractive to females then most of them are not going to find that which they seek.

I have advice for both men and women. This is a critical thought blog, so my advice ought to be considered carefully and not simply judged as right or wrong. You have to make up your own mind.

The advice I will give is, know thyself.

Men:- increase your status to a point where women do class you as physically attractive. Social status is based on cars, watches, job titles, wealth and lifestyle. At a social gathering I started chatting to a wealthy man whilst admiring his attractive wife. I asked him why he drove a Bentley Turbo RR and he stated that he bought it as it was more expensive than a Rolls Royce. I just walked away from him. His status, in my eyes, hit zero. I didn't even bother to excuse myself. There was no need, he had revealed his status as being zero. I hope you really understand the point of status. If you don't, then buying increasingly expensive cars and watches is not the way to become an actual high status male or female.

Society can give you an illusion of status to dazzle other low status members of society. The reality is somewhat different. Real status is not built upon the whims of society but on the solid foundation of civilisation. Think about it. A high status man is confident, not loud and brash, controlled in his actions and reactions, he inspires confidence and brings out the best in those around him. He is powerful and is highly sought out by women. This is called hyper-gamy to some but it is simply common-sense. Practically all men have the ability to develop into high status males. Read my three short books and practise the exercises described within them for a few years.

Women:- I am sure you could follow the advice given above for men and become far more attractive in person than your photographs suggest. However, you can also help develop nearly any man into a high status male. Remembering that actual high status is not dependent upon job title, wealth, cars, houses or watches. It just isn't.

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I have discussed the difference between society and civilisation before. Basically, society is an unnatural state of affairs and civilisation is natural.

Our society tells us only 20% of men are attractive to women. This tells me all I need to know about western society.

Becoming a high status male is a mental choice and is demonstrated through deeds and actions.

For example, I was once told that in business, if I was ever unsure of what to do, then at least make a profit.

Thus, in life, if you aren't really sure what you you ought to do, then at least acquire wealth and status symbols.

The point being, a high status man will know what he wishes to do in life. A high status man may choose to run a business but he will run it for a reason and that reason will not simply be 'profit'.

Society would have you believe that profit and the acquisition of wealth grants you status. It doesn't. You demonstrate your own status through your words and actions and nothing else.

 “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” - Martin Luther King Jr.

In the above quote, the 'measure of a man' is what I call status. I fully agree with Mr King Jr

That is actually what women seek. A 'man of character' who remains calm, relaxed, confident and a pleasure to be with when things are not going his way. Failing that, a fat wallet will likely keep adversity at bay.

A man seeks exactly the same thing, a woman who remains calm, relaxed, confident and a pleasure to be with when things are not going her way. Failing that, whatever society currently describes as 'attractive' will suffice.

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In my books and other blog posts I mention an 'inner monkey'. All my 'inner monkey' ever does is seek to destroy my status. When my 'inner monkey' is dormant, my status is absolute. I only realised that as I typed it. Temet Nosce (know thyself) is far more useful than a Bentley Turbo RR and a Rolex watch. To end this post, the wealthy man I described earlier soon disposed of his attractive wife for a younger model. The ex-wife soon found a new man who took several hundred thousand pounds from her. I wouldn't describe any of these four people as being high status.

Be seeing you